Busy Being Aloof

These past couple of weeks, I have felt blocked. I have had writer’s constipation. I didn’t know what to write, or even how to make the words come out the right way. There are so many words that exist in the world and yet, I couldn’t find the right words in the right order, to say exactly what I wanted to say. Is it logical to say that I’m scared of that? Does it make sense to say that I’m scared of not being understood, or being able to explain EXACTLY how I feel and EXACTLY what I mean? That’s a scary feeling. But then again, I think it’s fair...

Big Girl In A Tiny Waist World

Look Ma!! I'm fashionable!!  Being a big girl in a tiny waist world, it seems like there isn't a lot out there for a size 16 to fit into without looking like a sack of potatoes or a can of busted biscuits. Like that food analogy? Yeah, I thought you might.  I'm a girl that is besties with food, and is known to never turn away a good Italian meal. Damn you carbs. Although I have love for all things delicious, I'm on good terms with the...

"It's Complicated"

Everyone knows that love is complicated. Love goes hand in hand with life, so it is never meant to be easy. Love is selfishly unselfish, because of the love,care, and effort that we, the individual needs to put in the relationship for the other person, while also making sure we are getting what we need. If a person in the relationship is unwilling, or unable to provide that, go ahead and changed your relationship status along with your idea of...

Throwing Up Epiphanies: Alcohol Edition

I think during our time as young adults we make a lot of mistakes. Some mistakes we can all relate to, while some we feel alone. Over all, we all make mistakes, but it's how you bounce back that really counts.  Being 21 opens a lot of doors of opportunity in making mistakes, especially when it comes to alcohol.When you get to be 21, the law says you are at the age where you are responsible enough to make  decisions when it comes to drinking alcohol....

Table For One Please: Part Two

Walking into the cafe and finding a seat, my waiter meets me. First thing he asks, "Are you by yourself ma'am?" I see we are already off to a good start by announcing my lack of companion.Choking down my sarcasm defense mechanism, I confidently say yes, I am alone. A flutter of elation surged through me as I said it. "I'm really doing this. I am eating alone", I thought. As the waiter takes my order, he removes the extra place setting, which made...

Table For One Please: Part One

One thing I have always took pride in, is my independence. I never felt I truly needed anyone, because I could do things on my own. That was what I believed until this morning, when I realized I may not be as independent as I thought. Running late for work, I forgot to pack my lunch, causing me to go out for my afternoon sustenance. So, as I sit in my little cubicle, I try to decide where I want to eat. All I can think...

Lessons From Blogging

By now, I'm sure most of you have realized that I say exactly how I feel about whatever comes to my mind and that nothing is off limits, including vaginal flatulence. If you haven't noticed, then maybe you should go back and reread since I've now pointed out the obvious. I'm not afraid of talking about my life and my experiences, because I know that someone, somewhere, has gone through or is going through what I wrote about. If they haven't, then go ahead and get a laugh at my expense. At least my posts have served a purpose. I got into writing...

Life Lessons From A Flatulent Pussycat

Being a lover of comedy, and someone who aspires to maybe work in the comedy world, I know there's a lot of things you have to be able to do to make it in the industry. Making people laugh is a given to the smart asses who thought I was pointing out the obvious. To make people laugh is the goal, but to be able to laugh at yourself is the talent to get you there. You have to be able to laugh at yourself, to be funny to others and really open up comedically .That skill also applies in life.Too many people shy from fun times and moments that could...

I Dare You: The 52 Week Money Challenge

I love spending money. I spend money like it's going out of style. But, I am coming to realize, that's not acceptable anymore. It's not cute to always be the broke girl with nice things. So, starting today I will be doing the 52 week challenge. It will be a good way for me to start practicing saving for my future. If you are like me and want to get better at saving money, I dare you to take the challenge with me. The holidays are approaching...

"No Your Butt Doesn't Look Fat In Those Jeans"

Lies, white lies, fibs, omitting, or if you want to get pretentious: fabricating. Lies are lies, no matter how you dress it up. Everyone is a liar liar pants on fire. Yes, by everyone I am including myself. My pants stay on smolder daily. It's the little white lies that get me through the day with my sanity in tact. "No, I didn't eat the last slice of pizza." "I think it was Sharon who jammed the copier." "Yes, I'd just love to hear about your 5th...

Being Happy Isn't A Career

You know those people who have known what career they wanted since they've popped out their mom's hoo-ha? Yeah, those people who have it all together and working in a field they love? I hate those people. Not because of who they are, but because they have it all figured out. I however, do not. I tend to have a lot of ideas of something that sounds great, but no solid idea that turns into a plan of action. At the age of 5 I was asked "What do you want to be when you grow up?" My answer: a doctor. At the age of 10, I was asked again. My answer: A...

For Better Or For Worse

"For better or for worse". That is the promise that couples say as a vow while changing their "I's" to "we's", and those "me's" to an "us" in marriage. As a person in a relationship, I know I have a certain responsibility as a woman, and as a girlfriend to my boyfriend. But, what I didn't know was how hard it would be to maintain that responsibility of support through difficult times, before the boyfriend and I even reached the possibilities of us ever saying "I do". With problems coming at C.K (my boyfriend) and I from seemingly every angle, we...

Battle Of The Sexes: Gift Giving

From the first day we met, I knew my boyfriend and I were definitely in the "opposites attract" category of couples. We are so different in so many ways, that I'll have to save that for a different post to explain. We struggle every now and again to adjust to the fact that we don't think the same way about a lot of things. Today wasn't any different. The boyfriend and I got into a "discussion" about the subject of gift giving. Our one year anniversary is coming up, along with Christmas , AND his birthday. Hurray for my pockets right?...

We The People

I wasn't raised to judge or hate someone based on their color, gender, or orientation. But, that doesn't mean that I don't think racism and prejudices don't exist. I don't live under a rock. I live it everyday, not only as a woman, but as a black woman. But, it still throws me off kilter when I hear people allow bigotry to fall out of their mouths like it's ok. Yes yes, I know, freedom of speech. But, why does the color of skin, if you're a man or woman, gay or straight, matter? People have fought, risked, and even lost their lives, to ensure...

Cinema Magic

Pauline Kael, an American film critic, once said: " A good movie can take you out of your dull funk and the hopelessness that so often goes with slipping into a theatre; a good movie can make you feel alive again, in contact, not just lost in another city. Good movies make you care, make you believe in possibilities again. If somewhere in the Hollywood-entertainment world someone has managed to break through with something that speaks to you, then it isn't all corruption. The movie doesn't have to be great; it can be stupid and empty and you...

Priorities For The Poor

Growing up, I couldn't wait to be 20-something. I had dreams of living on my own, a nice car, and fancy material items. But then reality sucker punched me in the face. Health issues, lack of motivation, and the economy, really caused some major setbacks in my dream 20-something lifestyle. So here I am, a 20-something "adult" struggling to make something of her life, putting herself through college with bills to pay, and still trying to maintain a social life, while living at home; carless. Pretty sad really. I sympathize with bank robbers. If...

My Rock, My Love, My Best Friend

This is my love, my rock, my best friend. I love and trust him more than I have ever trusted anyone. It's scary, yet so freeing to know that you love and trust someone so completely. That means you are handing over your body, heart, and soul. All your fears, vulnerability, hopes, dreams, goes to him. Its an amazing experience. We are each others rock, best friend, and personal cheer leader. We have gone through tough times and really...

Hey, I Like Like You

Remember the days when you were a kid and the word "love" was such a powerful word, we didn't use it to describe how we felt about someone? We either liked someone, or LIKED liked someone. By repeating the word it was supposed to mean something more than it being said once. Maybe it was just me or the way I was raised. My mom always told me never say you love someone unless you really mean it. What may seem like a simple statement to you, carries an indescribable meaning to the other person, and you cant take back what's already been said....

My Mask Unveiled

I've fought with myself since I've started this blog about letting people see who I am. The sense of animosity was fun and exciting at first,  because I felt more freedom with my writing. By no means, am I a professional writer. I'm a person who loves to write and express myself in different ways. I honestly was a little nervous to show who I am, because then people could see the face behind the words, and make judgments. But, after thinking...

Let Your Freak Flag Fly

There are billions of people on this earth. All of us are different. Tall, short, fat, thin, black, white, brown, purple, green, etc etc. You'd think that after years of fighting prejudices in every culture, we would have learned to accept people for who they are. I was raised to judge people for their actions, not the person they are. Some people are still stuck in their prejudicial ways, and it continues to baffle me. This past weekend I was getting pictures taken with my boyfriend, when an elderly woman stopped and said "You're a beautiful...

The Birds And The B's

Let's talk about the birds and the B's. No, not the sex talk. I'm talking about flipping the bird and the women in your life who are witches with a capital B. There's nothing I hate more than catty women. Always trying to cause drama and stress in other peoples life. If you're bored and need something to do, don't try to cause drama, go find a hobby. Crochet, underwater basket weaving, staring contests, something. I'm not going to pretend like I know why some women act the way they do. I'm not going to pretend that I care. It took a while to get...

What Are You Waiting For?

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Just A Four Letter Word

The word "love" is funny. Almost everyone and their mother wants that four letter word. We search and search for it until we have it, and then we don't want to let it go. We lose ourselves in the feeling of having "love", I think we almost forget what to do with ourselves if we didn't have it. We romanticize love. Make it this grand and powerful thing, when really, it's just a four letter word. I hate the word "love". Too many people over use and abuse it to where I'm stuck contemplating what it really means. What does "love" really mean? I've...

The Journey To Whatever This Is

<a href="http://www.bloglovin.com/blog/11297595/?claim=cx36at27zev">Follow my blog with Bloglovin</a> I think I've spent about 4 hours dancing around what exactly how I wanted to start. Introductions are lame and lets face it, who really wants to read my life story? No one, that's who. Unless I have my name in lights, I'm pretty sure that my bio isn't going to make the best sellers list. However, I do have things I think about, and often wonder if I'm the only one. So this blog isn't mostly about me. It's about expressing my thoughts...